Individuals rebuilding after a relationship ends
Breakup Therapy & Counselling
Therapy after a breakup is rarely just about missing someone. Often it is about noticing how much of yourself faded inside the relationship, and finding your way back to steadier ground.
Who this is for
People rebuilding after a relationship has ended: heartbreak, low self-worth, boundaries that blurred, a sense of not quite knowing who you are on your own again. It is also for the on-again off-again pattern, the pull to go back to a relationship that hurts, and the exhaustion of a cycle you cannot seem to step out of. And it is for the shock of a relationship ending through infidelity or betrayal, when the grief comes tangled with humiliation, doubt, and replaying everything you might have missed.
When dating keeps landing in the same place
For some people the pattern shows up before a relationship has even begun. You might be drawn again and again to the wrong people despite the red flags, where chemistry keeps overriding your better judgement. Or the opposite: so worried about choosing wrong that you freeze, unsure what you even want, worn down by dating burnout and the apps, or hesitant about getting back into dating at all.
Both are decisions made from an anxious or overwhelmed part of you rather than a grounded one, and both are workable. Rather than only managing dating anxiety, we use real dating as a place to surface and heal those patterns, shifting the question from "can I trust them?" to "can I trust myself?"
What to expect
Together we look at the pattern that led here: where it comes from, what it has been protecting, and why the same kind of relationship can keep feeling familiar. Part of this is seeing the pattern clearly enough to face reality, including accepting when a relationship truly cannot be fixed. For some people that includes understanding a trauma bond, the powerful pull back toward someone even when you know it is not good for you, and loosening its grip so you can actually move on.
From there, the work is about reclaiming your voice: not losing yourself to keep the peace, and taking back your self-respect and self-worth. We look honestly and without blame at your part in the dynamic, so the next relationship does not have to repeat it, and at why you are drawn to certain partners, tending to the attachment wounds underneath.
Drawing on Internal Family Systems, we treat your reactions to the loss as different parts of you trying to cope, rather than problems to fix. Instead of only trying to rationalise the breakup, we slow down and turn inward: noticing the parts stirred up by the split, what they are afraid would happen if they stopped overthinking or hurting, and making room for grief you can stay with, so you are not left overwhelmed. This is individual therapy, grounded in the same relational lens I use with couples, and we work at your pace.
What you gain
Reconnecting with yourself is where healing starts, and it opens a clearer path forward instead of repeating the patterns you keep landing in. Often we end up in adult relationships that feel familiar from a childhood wound that never fully healed, and tending to that at the source is what lets you step out of the pattern, not just away from one person. Over time, many people find their sense of self returns: steadier self-worth, clearer boundaries, and a real understanding of the pattern, with discernment, rather than just distance from it.